The Many Faces of Mothering Part 3

Mothering is a journey like no other, a calling. The details are unique, yet the struggles are oh so similar. We’re in this together, moms. Our paths may look different, but our hearts want the best for our kids. Be the mom who God designed you to be and support the moms, different as they may be, around you. Today, we continue in our series to celebrate the calling of motherhood (read part 1 here or part 2 here). Lisa Brown reminds us of important truths to cling to on our journey.

Being A Mom by Lisa Brown

Just recently I asked a group of moms what they do for their children’s bedtime routine. I compared what I do with their ideas and I fell short. I don’t give my kids vitamins every night and I forget to have them brush their teeth. Things like this used to make me feel like a failure. And sometimes it still does.

I’d like to say that I don’t struggle with perfection or comparing myself to other moms. But I do struggle with both of these things. Some days I beat myself up more than other days. I know that I’m not always going to measure up to my own expectations. I’m not a failure. I’m just another mom who doesn’t always get it right.

God is leading me to confront my children in love and hold them accountable.  

The Many Faces of Mothering

My ideas about parenting are being challenged daily.   I had no idea that being a stay at home mom was going to be so emotional.   I’ve never wanted to work outside of the home and I still don’t.   Yet somedays I wonder if what I’m doing is the right thing and I worry that I don’t have what it takes.

It isn’t easy to get the kids to do their daily chores. They have minds of their own and are strong willed. There have been times I did work for them to avoid conflict. I’m guilty of pretending that I don’t see their clean clothes on the floor. I get tired of telling them over and over to hang them up. Sometimes I just don’t want to deal with the chaos and grumpy moods

Love teaches kids right from wrong.

There were times when I wanted to throw my arms up in the air and say I don’t care. We are a homeschooling family and as you can imagine we have several goals and tasks to accomplish on a daily basis.   I use to give in when they didn’t cooperate.   I would give up and let them do as they please.   I want to be consistent but it’s much easier to just be their friend and not discipline.   God is showing me that this is not love.

I find my strength in God.

I desire to be an intentional parent that does my best every day. I have to stick to the plan that God puts in my hand. I must stay focused. I have to make tough decisions for my kids even if they don’t like me for a time.

When I face mom battles without God’s help, I want to turn myself into a turtle and hide in my shell.

Now that’s a funny thing to want to do because turtles are go getters. They are slow and they are steady and they win. Take sea turtles for an example!!!! Seriously, they are the cutest little things ever. When they hatch on land they are as small as my thumb.

baby seaturtles

They are smart little critters. They know that the sandy land it not their home. Instead of staying where they are, they adventure off into the unknown.   Unaware of all the obstacles they must face they let nothing get in their way.

Bumps in the sand seem like giant mountains to climb over.   Big creatures will eat them if they don’t hurry to a place of safety. When they arrive to the ocean there are huge intimidating waves that take them away and swirl them around until they find their home of rest. These little turtles are brave and they never give up.

Life is hard for all and we are created to push through the rough times.

God calls me to work hard and to be in partnership with Him.

I love being a mom and it has changed me from the inside out. I don’t live life for myself anymore. I rather do one right thing with God then do a million little things that will never matter at the end of my life time

It’s through His grace and love that I can get up each morning to face the challenges of the day.

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed and broken. We are perplexed, but we don’t give up and quit.” 2 Corinthians 4:8

Doing what is right regardless of how I feel is the heart of being a mom.

Love is a choice and sometimes we don’t feel very loving after a long night of no sleep when kids are screaming. It’s at the moment when we feel we are at the end of our rope that God steps in and rescues us before we fall off into deep despair.

God will carry me.

Being a mom has taught me to gracefully fall into the arms of a loving God and to let Him carry me through the confusion, frustration, and tiredness.

I can trust instead of worry.

Life is filled with hiccups, distractions, and unexpected surprises. I use to let this kind of stuff wear me out, until I realized that I need to become more flexible and walk in grace. I don’t have to have everything figured out.

It’s good to have Mom goals for our family. Mine is homeschooling and being a stay at home mom. Yours may be similar or very different. In any case we must remember that anything worth fighting for is going to take hard work. God doesn’t expect us to do things like anyone else or to do things on our own. He is with us and He will help us through.

 

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My husband and I have a seven year old boy and a six year old girl. We been married almost ten years. I’m the creator of a blog called – Me Too Moments For Moms https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/  

I have a wonderful writing team who writes with me about Christian life, parenting, marriage, homeschooling, and motherhood. We also write about depression, grief, food issues, anxiety, and becoming a writer.

Following are some blog posts that you can check out.

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2016/04/15/god-of-all-comfort-by-beth-biggers/

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2016/03/07/when-mama-is-crushed-in-spirit-by-andrea-fortenberry/

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2016/02/25/where-is-god-when-it-hurts/

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2015/09/18/true-loves-kiss-the-real-wake-up-call-by-the-river-chick-rebecca-greebon/

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2015/08/15/how-god-used-loneliness-for-my-good-looking-up-with-jen/

https://communitymoms.wordpress.com/2016/01/15/does-god-like-me-by-lisa-brown/

 

 

 

 

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  1. Lisa,
    You have described struggles in parenting that I am sure many moms will be able to relate to as well. I can so relate to the desire to let things go to avoid conflict with my children. Thank-you for the reminder that, “It’s through His grace and love that I can get up each morning to face the challenges of the day.”

    • BrandyHynes says:

      Thank you Wendy! Lisa reminds us that parenting is a struggle in our flesh, but His grace and love gives us strength. Thank you for being here!

  2. Lisa,

    This is a great post. I love how you share with such honesty. I can also relate to just wanting to look past certain things and have my kids like me or be content vs. the constant refining and discipline that mothering can take. It can be SO exhausting. I was encouraged by your commitment to do things God’s ways instead of your own and of the reminder that when we are at our wits end, that God’s grace always comes and takes over. I needed to hear that at the end of a trying week. Thank you!

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